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Let It Go
You don’t have to be a singing Disney Princess to use this one–in a tough spot you have three choices: you can change it, accept it, or let it go.
Maybe you’ve heard the famous prayer asking for the “strength to change what I can,” and the serenity to accept what I can’t?
That’s an excellent thought. But what if neither of those will work?
Sometimes it’s a person or an environment you can’t change. If you’re in a relationship, should you accept any trait or behavior?
If your boss is degrading, your teammate is rude, or your neighborhood is dangerous, and it’s not okay with you, what then?
When you’re faced with an unchanging, unacceptable situation, you have permission to release yourself from it and it from you.
You can let it go–as a result of one of the simplest ways ever to break down a decision and make a choice. You can:
1. Change it. You’re allowed to hang in there and work to change something if you are up for it. Maybe your boyfriend will agree to watch less sports or your girlfriend will learn to clean up after herself. Talk it out, work on yourselves, express those hopes and wishes. Things can and do change for the better.
2. Accept it. So your boyfriend isn’t turning off baseball anytime soon. He loves the stuff…and you love him. Or your girlfriend is just not the neat freak that you are, and she never will be. But she has other charms. You’re allowed to accept the situation–and the person–as is.It’s truly a noble choice most of the time.
3. Let it go. So if you can’t get him to turning his head from the sports, and it’s unacceptable to you because it precludes all togetherness… your third alternative is right there for you. You can let him go. And if she’s so messy that it makes every day uncomfortable for you, but to her, the clutter is her comfort…
here we are again: Change it, accept it, or let it go.
The letting it go part is the toughest, yes? But you really only have this decision to make when you can’t change it (or it wouldn’t be fair to), and you can’t accept it (or you shouldn’t accept it for your own good).
If you’re stuck or twirling, take heart. Though it’s not an easy choice, it is a simple one. I’ve let go a job or two, an apartment, a childhood friend, and a couple of business ventures. I made it through because it was the right alternative.
That’s what this is about. You can choose this other alternative when you need it.
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