Monthly Archives: February 2015

26Feb/15

Being your true self is being your best self.

Ralph Waldo Emerson made a profound statement on individuality with his quote, “Envy is ignorance, Imitation is suicide.”

When you want to have what other people have, or wish to be like other people, you lose the bits of yourself that make you, you.

But what about the parts of you that you would like to improve, and the qualities of other people you admire? What’s wrong with having a road map or role model?

Nothing is wrong with working on yourself. In fact, the idea of being yourself sort of implies that you’re A-Ok with who you are. What about when we’re not our best? Continue reading

19Feb/15

A sense of pride doesn’t mean a big ego.

When we take pride in our accomplishments, we may get mixed up and feel we are on the edge of arrogant behavior.

And it’s possible that we are. But there’s a difference between identifying with ego, which needs to feel praised or right, and taking pride in our work.

There is also a difference between being proud of superficial qualities and material gains, and having self-respect and being self-assured.

Just because we have a sense of pride, doesn’t mean we’ve lost track of our ego or that we are getting “a big head.” We can take pride and remain humble. Continue reading

12Feb/15

Don’t be sorry, just be true.

These days,┬áthere seems to be a real prejudice against acceptance–we’re taught and expected to strive for more and better.

When we think about being who we are, where we are, with what we have, we’re not compelled to be okay with that. That might be settling.

We’re supposed to do our best and be our best. To believe in our dreams. This can translate into feelings of insufficiency, real quick.

Because in reality, we can only do our best given the circumstances, and we can’t always be our best. Best is the top. So we feel sorry about that. A lot.
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